And seriously, the OM not being allowed in your house....that just makes sense. It's just being respectful to yourself and she should be able to easily easily give you that. And how do you know he even wants to be there?
Honestly, I don't know that the OW (we are a gay couple) wants to come in the house. I just know that my W wanted to bring her there for the 4th of July weekend, and when I said "no", her response was "Well, how long is that going to last?". As the OW has been following her around like a puppy dog, I think she would have gone for it. I said it was a reasonable request, and my W said it was "for now" but "that soon it wasn't going to be". This from the woman who said she was going to be "as kind and sensitive as possible" during the Separation/D process.
The MLC/A self-centeredness really is incredible... My W clearly saw the house as hers, as she has been pretty much the sole breadwinner for the last 5 years. She even worked up a spreadsheet- how many months I paid the mortgage, how many months we both paid the mortgage, how many months she has paid. At the time she did this, by her calculations the equity was a 70/30 split in her favor. I think her appointment with her attorney really opened her eyes to the reality of the situation...
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed
