If she hasn't been staying there, I would change the locks kat
She still works from home periodically (she is there today, in fact) and since we co-own the home, I can't throw her out. She has as much right to be there as I do....
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed