Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[mishka422]

(((Ashlee))))

I personally think you handled that marvelously. You do realize though that since you got no response or reaction from him last night that when he breaks that boundary (and he most likely will because he's addicted to OW)he will tell you he didn't hear you say any such thing because he was asleep, right?

I concur with Gardener...what will the consequences be? Can you not tell him to leave your marital bed? He doesn't deserve to be there since he's not being a proper husband. He should be the one to leave, not you. He has to take the punishment for his own bad behavior.

Gardener made a good point about strength and honor being said only to men around here. I've wondered that myself. I think maybe it's just a gender difference in the words we use. Men use words like those and women use respect and perserverence. It seems just that simple doesn't it?

Keep up the good fight Ash. The fight is not really for your M you know, it's for yourself and your son. H can go spin in the wind if that's what he wants to do, you will perservere for your son and come out the other side of this crisis a much better woman!!!!