Peacetoday - The MLCer is all about control or maybe lack of control. They feel out of control and therefore seek it at every opportunity. For your 42 yr old Ex to marry a 28 yr old pretty much in my opinion has illustrated that. He has picked an easy mark whereas you were more demanding intellectually and emotionally. That control and power usually mitigates at least short term, a lacking self esteem. However as time goes on, what your husband needs won't be there. The differences will be glaring at some point.
I'm a 48 yr old man and men sometimes joke about trading in the their 40 something old wives for two 20s. However, that is what it is...a joke. I couldn't imagine marrying a 28 yr old. Music tastes, friends,life experiences and just the overall intellectual and emotional differences would most often be profound. Currently I'm dating someone 10 years my senior and we have a ball together. I couldn't imagine dating someone 28 years old, much less marrying them. That would be in all but the most unique cases a prescription for disaster. Add to that,(if I remember correctly) she has an 11 yr old son? That is an indicator to me. This won't last. Hang in there. This is your husbands journey.He has to take it and finish it before he heads back.
Me- 47 W- 45 Married 22 years Together 30 years No Kids, 1 dog, 1 Cat 2005 - 2007 W in MLT 1/08 - Crisis hits 3/08 W drops Bomb and leaves in the middle of the night. Admits to PA 4/08 W files for divorce 8/08 Divorce final
