Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

Thanks for responding mermaid, SD & CP. Much appreciated.

I didn't keep my mouth shut but am pleased with how I handled it.

I laid in bed (H still in our bedroom and our bed) for a while thinking about it. I asked God for guidance and it came to me. Although H was partly feigning sleep I knew he was awake. I said something to the effect of:
You will refrain from contacting the other person involved in your adulterous affair in front of our son. Extramarital affairs have no place in our M or in our family. It is extremely disrespectful to me and to S. It is a mortal sin and goes against the beliefs of the Catholic Church.

H never responded. I was not angry or upset when I said it. Maybe I said too much but I feel good about it. I also continue to believe I am at a crossroad. For me, an ultimatum seems like the next step. Financially I may not survive but I can no longer allow H to continue to disrespect S and I this way.

I continue to pray for guidance from the Lord each day. I also greatly respect the opinions, support, encouragement and ideas from everyone on this board. I would appreciate any feedback regarding my plans for giving H an ultimatum.