exactly. exactly. he is this way because no one ever stopped him. granted, nothing he ever did was as bad as this, but no one ever disciplined him.

as a kid, he was a class clown type trouble maker, but no one ever disciplined him, his cousin always tells me, the grandfather handled it more than his parents. they always said, oh its h, being h.

they did his school work for him, because he didnt want to. he didnt want to finish college, oh, ok no problem.

yes, sometimes its ok to not finish. but to let it go so easily? without discussion? he did have a good paying job but its not the point. point is nothing was a big deal.

so then he has an affair, leads a double life, wife and child sitting alone in the big house and dont know about affair.

i find out they had seen her while i didnt know, and i heard fil let her come to his dental office to fix her teeth 2 years ago! wtf?

its not right.


me: 31
H:29
Son:5
m:8 years in november
t:10 years
first bomb: 10/06
moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08
ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06
d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08
moved home:3/09 out again 5/09