My wife had an emotional affair with a married man

[dgtal]

thanks bluerain. "...aiming it at your wife because you are afraid she will get angry?..." I know its everybodie's fault, I even blame myself too for not paying attention to what was going on in my own backyard. Now, only exposing the human side of all this, if I had the chose (if I had the authority) between one of them to be punished of course I would pick the OM. I would leave my wife out of this, she is the love of my life.
I know that the ideal way to go is to follow the DB recommendations and change the direction of our human way to do things and not to do what ordinary people do who fail on their marriages. I'm still full of resentment, and I will not direct it to my wife if that's what forgiveness is all about.