I think Pup said something like this before that it's like punishing a child and then trying to pacify it, at least that what I was thinking
Yep, that sounds about right, and it's pursuit too. You already know all this stuff. I'm glad you realized that.
You were just making him treat you with respect. That's a good thing, and a mature way of handling yourself. Your H is acting immature by reacting to that the way he is. I think you're handling it well now. Don't apologize for doing the right thing. Karen
