OK people I realize I am new here, but I really need to get some feedback and ideas, etc. Not sure how to start that out and connect with others the way many of you have. So, H came and spent the night Friday to stay cool (I have the house and it has A/C) and spend time with son. Wasn't expecting too much with me but he ended up initiating physical contact which I was happy to get and helped with my goal of showing him a life that would be worth rejoining. The next day S6 has activity we go to together and have fun and then take him to waterpark after to celebrate his performance. H comes to waterpark drunk which I just ignore cause I don't want to ruin day for son. H proceeds to drink all night apparently after leaving waterpark and sends me a text about noon today that he has been drinking all the time and he is slowly killing himself and he really needs to talk to his "friend" (OW) and could I please understand. I quickly replied that he had many people to talk to and no I would not be OK with him talking to her. It all went down hill from there, him trying to make me feel guilty for not caring enough and not wanting him to be sober no matter what. And trying to convince me they are just friends and he loves me. I told him I can't tell him what to do and if that's what he wants/thinks he needs, he can do what he wants but I am not OK with it and will never be and there is no reason I should be. It was on and on back and forth which is totally idiotic on my part because he is drunk and I am just getting pulled in which is stupid.
Anyway, I just need to process and all my friends and family would just see this as another reason I should just divorce him, which may be true. I know it is hard for spouses who have had EA or PA to give that person up, but I shouldn't have to hear about that or deal with it. I don't even know what to think right now. The fact that after spending great time with me and S, he is still dying to talk to her, just makes me think this is never going to change. But, I hold on because I think it he got help and was sober a lot of the problems would be much easier to fix. I am so tired of the drama.
