Aargh. So mad/sad/frustrated and yet shouldn't be surprised, should I?
Dan had called earlier to say he separated his shoulder and was in a lot of pain, had just woken up at 4 pm from taking pain meds. He said he wanted me to know the reason he hadn't called or stopped by all day. Mind you, tonight was his on the calendar, he had said he would come to karate and then have the kids for the evening.
In the phone call he said his dad and friend Barry were working on the house without him while he was at his mom and dads. So I let it go and figured he would just be resting all night and not take the kids... Well kids wanted to make him 'get better' cards. So they did. And I said we could run them out after karate...
We drove out by his parents' after karate and his car was there, but truck was gone. I texted him to see where he was, as the kids wanted to deliver their cards. He called back and said that he and his dad were on their way back from delivering a bull to his friend Doug 2 hours away...I asked how he was managing and he said his dad was driving he was just riding along.
So he was too injured to spend the evening with his kids, but not too injured to do cow stuff. Big surprise. I didn't say that, I just thought it. He did say he would be around tomorrow night since he wasn't going to Canada after all. I said oh, sorry, kids are signed up for Bible school tomorrow night.
Just another example of how he thinks he can just do what he wants on his own schedule and we should all work around him.
Grr. I told him to call me when he got back from delivering the bull. We need to talk about the boundaries of this whole separation thing and his scheduled time with kids. If we were a couple, a team, then there is all the reason in the world to be flexible and work together. But since we aren't, then that makes things different.
