The part of me that wants "us" is gone...sorry

[Kiki1011]

It has been almost a year since I have posted on this site. My last thread was in the "separated” section but I think it makes more sense for me to post here now. Our divorce isn’t quite final but is in the works and is definitely going to happen.

After going through the affair H had, losing the baby after he looked me in the face everyday telling me he hoped I would lose it and dealing with all his mental abuse I have no part of me that wants any part of him anymore. I feel stronger now than I ever was with him. I received a huge promotion at work, made new friends, found a nice condo and was so happy when I realized I could take care of myself. H on the other hand has turned into this pathetic person and wants me back now that I am strong and confident again. He still calls/texts talking about how much he misses me and even asks for sex. I’m not completely cold hearted, I do still care about him, but I just don’t want to associate myself with the whole mess anymore. He wants to maintain a friendship with me but is that even possible?

Do I seem wrong for not wanting to go back to him now when that’s what I fought for and wanted for so long?

Also, do you think I am ready to start dating? It has been over a year now since the affair/separation.

Thanks for any help!
-Nikki