Last night Dan came by for a bit in the evening. Asked me about the yard sale, chit chat stuff. Sydney bounced in his lap and asked, "Daddy when are you gonna bring your jammies and toothbrush?" I didn't hear his answer but she told me he said 'tomorrow'. Yeah, I don't think so poor girl...
So he put them to bed for me which was great b/c I had 13 hours sleep over 3 nights prepping for the sale and I didn't sit down basically at all Friday or Saturday. My knees were hurting and they never hurt!
He came out to leave and I told him to call me later and fill me in on the counseling session with Nathan (Nathan told me the counselor called Dan back to talk without him). Then I crashed/slept hard and forgot about it.
I was out in the garage for an hour cleaning up today and came in to 2 voicemails and 2 answering machine msgs. I texted back "What's up". He called right back and said he had fallen off his truck tailgate last night at his mom and dad's. They took him to the hospital today and he has a separated shoulder and tore a bunch of stuff. So he canceled the trip to Montreal for this week (he was going for a customer's golf tournament)...anyway he said he got pain pills at the hospital this am and was just waking up (at 4 pm) so he wanted to call me. He said sorry he hadn't called or stopped by at all. I told him I hadn't even noticed as I wasn't expecting him, and wished him luck healing his shoulder.
I am going to ask him his decision on the structured separation/solution focused brief therapy information I gave him when he took me to dinner last week. The structured separation isn't really an option, but the counseling is. If he is not interested or still 'doesn't know' then I will take that as a 'no' and continue distancing myself. Enough is enough, we either start the counseling to see if things can work or we move forward with the separation.
I mean, we are already separated, but he needs to start getting his mail sent somewhere else, stop giving businesses my phone number as his contact, and stopping by whenever the urge strikes. I am feeling taken advantage of in that respect yet I am also fully aware that i am the one who has allowed it to happen.
