I am glad you are going to see a L. It really stinks to have to do it, but you do have to. If nothing else it fleshes the reality out and scares away the "unknown" snakes.
Be sure to ask your L lots of questions. You do not have to use the services of the first L you consult if you don't think you connect.
I don't blame you for not picking a Mediator. This is what she wants, let her pick. As I told my H, this isn't what I want and I will do nothing to facilitate the S. If you want it, then you have to proceed. You make the best choices for you and I will make the best choices for me.
It is not my responsibility to make this fast, easy or cheap. But that's just me.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
