Thanks for your comments guys I do really appreciate them, they helped me in my thinking, although I am still feeling confused within myself about things and am trying to identify how I feel about this now the initial reaction has passed.
Yesterday I went down to the seaside to a festival which was fun but a total wash out. It poured but it was good anyway. Today has been a chillout day watching my new boxset of Sex and the City. I am going to that concert anyway with a friend and I will actively not look for him, some things I don't need to see and I will just enjoy the concert.
He is making an effort with me with the whole router thing. Basically the one at the house was on its last legs so when I moved I threw it out and he knew that so it is a nice gesture to offer me his one.
I do really appreciate them, they helped me in my thinking, although I am still feeling confused within myself about things and am trying to identify how I feel about this now the initial reaction has passed. 
