I don't think your main concern should be whether or no you can see her to give her the card and pics. Also, stop the thoughts abouut her trying to avoid you - sheesh!
How important are your plans for tonight? If it's something you're really looking forward to -- just tell her you can't do it.
Would it be possible for her to spend 3 or 4 hours w/the girls while you go to dinner, and then you can keep them and she can stay w/her friend?
Keep your emotions under control, please don't accuse her of trying to avoid her on your anniversary.
