So much has happened since i last posted i don't even know where to begin. My W has completely moved home. She changed her cell phone number and deleted her contacts since doing so. The things she says now, as far as how she thinks about our R and M is completely different from anything she's ever said in the past.
We decided to really work on trying again about 2 weeks ago. In those two weeks, we opened up completely about what we feel (a 180 for both of us as we were both very close lipped with eash other concerning feelings).
She had a slip up about a week and a half ago where she had said she was going to call me at a set time and didn't. she called an hour later, and i let her know that things didn't seem like they were changing and that isn't what i wanted again. she hasn't had a "slip up" since.
She is open with her phone (i double check online) and has committed to once a week marriage "training". reading or watching marriage guidance material and discussing what they mean to us. we are fine tuning some of the small things that seemed to cause us problems in the past like finances, and our views seemed to have flip flopped, as i want to separate our finances like she used to want, and now she wants to share all the finances.
Both of our opinions on things in general have changed and for the positive it seems. we finally seem to realize we're both on the same team and have come incredibly far in just a week of her moving home.
my absence from this site wasn't intended to cause confusion or speculation, but rather for me to fully devote myself to watching and listening to her to see what she really wants, instead of just the b.s. I took everything i learned here and stood my ground on things that i do not agree with. i've let her know that some things bother me and that i will not just stand by and let them go on (they haven't).
we both seem stupid happy right now. i am watching with a careful eye for any signs of disturbances, however, i am not going to be so guarded that i do not show her that i do care and love her, and she is doing the same. i do not want to be back on here in 2 weeks crying about it's worse now and things haven't changed, blah, blah, blah. i want to do everything right and know some of the hardest things are yet to come. however, like i've always said, i'll cross those bridges when they come.
thank you so much for everyone who has taken time to read my situation. thank you so much for those angels who have given their outlook and opinion on my Sitch. you helped me get my W back, just as my previous thread title stated. i went into this believing it was possible and it was. You all helped show me the way there by offering advice i needed at the point certain situations were occuring.
i will logon later and update more. thank you again everyone. i never could have done this without you.
