I have been over in newcomers since starting DB'ing in May. I recognize some of the posters on this forum - I have been reading but not posting here for the last few weeks.
I seem to have hit a somewhat stable (yet seemingly stagnant) plateau. W and I are very cordial around one another, still living in the same house (separate rooms), kids do not know of any problems. If you could see us at home, you would not know we were having any problems, until it comes time for bed, and we retreat to our separate bedrooms.
So, I have done what I think is a pretty good job stopping all pursuit, GAL'ing, getting back in shape, detaching, learning a lot about myself and becoming a happy, well adjusted person.
My question is when do you start piecing back the M? W and I have had NO R talks since me starting DB'ing in May. None. Of course, there has been no touching (sexual or non-sexual), no hugs no kisses, no ILY's.
In the last few weeks, I have seen what I think is my W starting to reach out to me. I think she is very scared to do this overtly (God that would be great) and she tests the waters when she does reach out, often leaving me wondering what just happened.
I would love to know if I am at a stage where piecing is the next thing for me to work on. If so, is it simply doing more DB'ing until she finally signals she is ready to work on the M? How much, if at all, should I push for teh R to move from friends back towards a M R?
