Gotta Keep Trying 2

[iwantittowork]

GIMA, I must say, it appears you are doing really well, I am happy for your progress!

Keep us posted, keep up the PMA and I love the 'Strength and Honor' saying that people use. I have been keeping that in mind myself. My thoughts are with you man!

[Gardener]

Gima,

Have a great trip, my friend!

[Dia]

Disney... our honeymoon was at the FL Disney complex. Lots of wonderful memories.

Some of my fave experiences:

Dinner at the restaurant upstairs in the castle.

The Hawaiian luau.

The Wilderness Lodge hotel.

The campy but fun Hoop De Do Musical Review.

Almost anything at Epcot.

The restaurant that looks into the huge aquarium.

The ride up inside the big golf ball thing.

A drink called a Samurai at the Japanese restaurant - plum wine, vodka and a touch of lime?

The English tea house shop, and kissing/taking refuge from the rain in the red phone booth just outside. And yes, we steamed up the windows!

Fireworks!! (both kinds )

Have a great time!

[givingitmyall]

Thanks Gardener and Dia.

We love that place. We have gone at least twice a year since we dated. Now, with the kids, its that much better. Of course, this trip has more importance for me than others.

Question for you guys (anyone really)that does not concern the trip. Early on after the bomb, I took down a picture of my W and I walking down the aisle at our wedding. It sat on one of the dressers in the master, which is now my bedroom. W has taken down (months ago) any pictures of our wedding in the guest room where she sleeps, replacing them with pictures of her and our kids (I am noticeably missing).

Anyway, do I put the picture back up in my room? Seems needy.

[Dia]

Hmmm, that's a toughie.

I might go with a pic of just her, just the two of you or the whole family rather than a wedding pic. Not sure I'm right about that, but it seems to fit in more with the theme of baby steps?

Me, I have doubts every now and then about wearing my wedding ring. Not for me - I'm dead certain that I want to wear it - but for him. No clue if this pressures him, annoys him, gives him pause, makes him think, etc. In the end, I'm wearing it for ME. My body, my ring, my vows = my decision.

You might be there already, but if not there's a question over in my thread that could use some input.

Thanks!

Dia

[Gardener]

Gima, I did the same thing with wedding picture in dining room. Too painful to see all the time. S and DIL agreed. I took it down.

At some point, for some reason, this came up in a discussion w/my telecoach. She suggested putting it back up, if I'd like, when I see any substantial positive movement by my wife. That never happened.

Anyway, long way of saying that if this weekend is a great one for Mr. & Mrs Gima, then you might want to put it back up in response.

(Of course, you could put it up any time you want. Either with no explanation or a simple, "That's where I was then; this is where I am now.")

My $.02 +

[givingitmyall]

Great advice Gardener and Dia.

I think I will see how the trip to Disney goes, and depending on that, might put up a picture of W. I have pics of the kids up.

Quick journaling:

Good workout today. Pleasant night. Made dinner and watched a little tv with W and the kids. Been getting ready for the trip to Disney. Surprisingly, I'm not nervous about it or about the sleeping arrangements, whatever they become. If I am anxious about anything, it's the sleeping arrangements when we get back home on Wed. Well, I can't control that.

I will have a great time no matter what.

[givingitmyall]

Having my first cup of coffee of the morning and getting ready to pack the car for the trip with W and the kids to Disney. We get back home on Wed. (after Sun and Mon nights at Disney and Wed night at my in-laws who live nearby).

I am taking my laptop, but may not have private time to check in. But, I can check on my blackberry - hope you guys will forgive the typos - don't know if this happens to anyone else, but when I post from my BB, I cannot see the reply I am typing past the first line.

I am not nervous about the sleeping arrangements - W laid out two sleeping bags for the kids, so I assume there is only going to be one bed. Unless she expects me to sleep on the balcony (just kidding), only one place left for us to sleep.

I am interested (not nervous) to see what happens as far as sleeping arrangements at my in-laws and once we return home. I honestly do not expect anything to change on that front. Just waiting and watching.

Weekend has been pleasant. It does seem we have fallen into a routine akin to what M'd couples have (I know, we are still M'd). We act like a M'd couple, who just does not hug or kiss or hold hands, during the day. We joke and have a better R with each other than we did before the bomb. Then each night, she and I retreat to our separate bedrooms. I do not expect anything different, but, dam%, I wish things would progress - just venting a little - I know this is my impatience showing, which I think is natural. I can recognize it for what it is, deal with it, then get my head back in the game. There's a bigger prize at stake here.

I will stay in touch on the trip, albeit most likely through my BB.

[mac-ct]

Hi gima,

I told you to buy an iPhone

Enjoy the coffee. Enjoy the trip. I'll be interested to see how things progress.

Vent away my friend.

Have a great day.

Mac

[hopeful_cb]

Hope you have a great time at Disney, sounds like fun. I'm sure the kids will love the trip. Hope the sleeping arrangements work out without much stress. Keep working on the patience, I know its a hard thing!