Yep, another WAW - in last resort

[lonelywolf]

Well, I got an e-mail from her telling me not to pay any bills until she figures out how much she and the kids need. I'm fine with that - it was just the tone of the e-mail was very accusatory, as though I was planning on leaving her high and dry. Odd, since I've always left her some and even told her two weeks ago to let me know how much she needs - and she didn't respond back then.

I just told her to let me know ASAP, but that some of the bills are due soon and thus I was going to pay them in a day or two. I did tell her about my anger management class and how I feel better now that I have really started to get my anger under control.

In other news, Clergydude told me the kids look happy, but she doesn't. She's also avoiding him. He did tell her to get some counseling, but she hasn't done that.

I don't want my wife to be miserable. I now know I was inattentive and took her too much for granted - but considering the tales she told me about how her mother always told her she was fat and ugly growing up (and even after our marriage) and how her mother would get so angry she would break things - I can't see why she would choose that over me. I can't imagine it's good for her state of mind.

Just thinking "out loud."