Well, I must take the bad with the good, I suppose, but why does it affect me at times.
Yes, unfortunately, you have to take the bad. That's what makes it a rollercoaster.
The reason it affects you is b/c you aren't detached. You have to work on that. It makes it MUCH easier to handle the downs, and it will increase your chances of success. Some say it is critical, and I can see why.
Have you read the detachment article from Livestrong? If not, I can send you the link.
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so just writing it down so I can try and move forward
I hear you, and I understand. But, not "try," DO. Even if you have to make yourself do it at first.
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And, she went shopping today, and bought new bedding for the twin bed in the other room she is staying in..
Not being an a$$ here, but she's still in hte house. Tons of people would kill for that. You and I have that going for us. I know sometimes I think it may be harder having my W aslepp in the room across the hall and I can't do a thing about it. But, I will take it right now over the alternative...and I'm sure you would too.
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Well, somehow can't let that impact me at all, and try and reframe my attitude into something else, I guess I'll take d8 out for dinner..
Get rid of the somehow and do. This is where detachment will save you. So, make the evening about you and your D. Joke and be happy with your D. It's fun, will make you happy, and is good practice for joking with your W.
Come on, you can do this. This is the "STRENGTH" part of strength and honor.
