I am already out of town. I have plenty of neighbors who could have watched the dog, but to use someone else would have made it clear to my W that I don't trust her.
Well, I think WAS that are having an A aren't trustworthy. You have to earn trust, and she's done the opposite. I wouldn't be so worried about her feelings too much, esp. if OW not being at your place is important to you. Karen
