this is gonna be quick, I'm going to digest the email more, but I think there is good stuff in there.
What gets me in my sitch is just anything that B does that makes me realize how many decisions he's making without me being in his life. Sometimes it hurts even when they are good decisions for him to make. I wonder if that might be part of what you are feeling?
The cat thing might be something good in that he is taking steps to take care of himself emotionally (pets = major stress reliever) which seems like something new. Maybe it could give you an opening to have cat "play dates" (do cats do that?)? Or maybe his new cat will turn out to be terrible and mean and he'll realize that Maple is irreplaceable!!
I know the router thing seems weird, but B did something similar when he sent me that extra copy of the CD he had recorded on that wasn't particularly meaningful to them. It's like giving a low-meaning "gift" or hand-me-down like that is the easiest gift for the WA to give, because if you don't like it they can't get hurt. But I know that H has given you very thoughtful gifts in the past already, so it might be just a really weird way of him showing that he want to take care of you (or something).
hang in there and enjoy all the beautiful things in your new life in LONDON!!!!
And PLEASE go to the pines of rome concert anyway! If I was in your area I would totally go with you.
