John, Sorry to see you are still dealing with this..have you done anything at all to end this? No.
Exposure, lawyer, what happened to your investigation? Can you W come and go as she pleases at your house? What are the guidelines for your daughter? How is she treating her? Has she mentioned her affair partner to your D any more? Does your D spend the night at her apartment? If so is the OM stuff still there...or is it your SS shaving kit, etc
How is your money going? Do you owe more on the house than it is worth and do you plan to stay where you are at when you retire? What happened to your SS moving into the apartment?
I ask to get a better understanding on your overall situation. My first thought is you should take Hawaii, use the relief program (great deal!) to cover your house payment, bank the COLA, and what a great opportunity to expose your D to another llife style. Hawaii is an incredible assignment. If you are being offered a job at PACAF then you will probably get senior and chief. Think about it...a big raise for your retirement check and the care of your daughter.
Will your daughter want to go with you? I wish you had done something legally before this opportunity...
Do not give up your ability to provide for yourself and your D to please your W. I have know many people who regret for the rest of their life on getting out or retiring before they wanted to for the spouse. And later divorce anyway...then you have no wife and no job.
Go see the lawyer and get yourself and your D taken care of.
You are letting her "normalize" this affair with your D. Talking on the phone, going shopping for a dress for the wedding, lunch, in and out of the house. Not a great example...nor any incentive for her to end this. What happened to the Army?
Remember, every single thing your W tells you is tainted in an attempt to cover her affair...in other words...she is a liar about everything. Everything is an attempt to make her A okay in her mind...and she will if allowed to continue like she has. I am embarassed to know that a SNCO is acting the way with an officer...I guarantee you that it is known by many people and not one has done anything about it.
Sorry for the ramble...nothing will change because you have done nothing to change the situation. Not willing to expose is why this is still going on...go see the lawyer.
