am giving her space and time, That's what she is asking for, I told her I planned on taking d8 to beach, and she was welcome to come if she wanted. She declined, but she actually told me why she declined which I take as a small positive. She wanted to go work out, then work on some meditation and personal growth stuff. I told her ok, and to enjoy herself. I see that she is clearly asking for space, so that's what I will give her.
I have read The Five Love Languages, and hers are quality time and acts of service. Tough to give Quality time in this sitch, but I take this morning's 90% right during her talking as quality time. Acts of Service I do all the time, like doing laundry this AM, and making sure hers were folded and placed so she could put them away. (I have always done acts of service, but trying to find the ones that she likes is the hard part..)
I am off to the beach, and man is it nice out! Should be a great time with d8!
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
