FIB, no worries about being out of the loop. Not possible in my case anyway. I am like a soap opera, 3.985 episodes later..., the actors still sit in the same living room...
I have set a dedaline to ME for August 25. After that, if he gives me no reason to stay, I will go ahead. Unfortunately, it will take another year to be divorced. Even if we agree on everything which I think will be the case... K