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[AFWAW]

Had an interesting conversation with the wife last night but not a surprising one. I told her she needed to stop calling me unless she wanted to come home and work on our relationship. She said she thought we were pretty much over. Ok, I said, then let's get this over with. She said but I don't want to divorce you. I said no problem, I'll do it. She said why can't you just date some people and see how you feel about us? I said, what a minute(I've heard this before, a few months back when she was seeing OM), WTF, you're still seeing him, aren't you? She said, what are you talking about? I said, I'm hanging up, don't call back. She says, you're right, I am still seeing him, I've been sneaky, I've lied to you...I interuppted at this point and said, don't you dare bitch at me about anything every again. I said what is so great about what you are doing? What is so great about a guy that is married? She said, we don't argue about anything and I like the way he makes me feel. I said, yeah, no @#$%, that's because there's not a committment! This guy will say and/or do anything you want because you're giving him exactly what he wants! Silence for a minute then she says, you're right. I said, I have to go and hung up.

Fast forward to an hour later, she calls me back and says she's sorry. That the sitch is really messed up. I said, what do you expect me to say, that this is ok? What do you want? She said, I don't know. I said, from now on, don't call me, don't email me, leave me alone. She said, I can't. I'm ending it with him and I want to try with us. I said the only way for us to work is if you remove all temptation and move back home. If you stay in that apartment, you will keep doing this. She said, you'll probably never be able to trust me again--I didn't respond. We talked a little after that about work and the future--not our future together but about other stuff.

Here's some things she doesn't know. I was offered a job in Texas through the AF and it's not someplace she can go. I was also told there's a job for me in Hawaii pretty soon if I want it in the AF.

So, while the sitch hasn't changed, I feel that I have--let's see, I've become more cynical, less trusting of people, more easily prone to anger, etc--and those are just the good things! Just kidding!!!!

So, what to do? Puppy, I know you're tired of my sitch but your comments are rarely dull. Hoop, what do you think? Gucci??? I saw you started a thread, I've employed some of your tactics but have been unsuccessful in getting my wife back due to OM. Anyone???