Treese, You have now heard the words...do not discussion it with him. No more discussions about anything...except the wedding, your children and over night visits, etc. Leave the financial stuff to the lawyer and let's see what your h comes up w. He doesn't know what the law will or will not allow and that's why it is important to keep this information under wraps. Do not show your hand or share the knowledge that you've gained w/him. You do not want to give him the upper hand.
As for the love child, I wasn't surprised to hear about the money for him. I'm sorry things turned out this way, but he does need to support him as well. The child didn't ask for any of this drama in his young life.
Stop second guessing yourself when it comes to your son and his father. Your son needs to be w/his friends as well and your h should have asked in advance and not waited until the last minute. You did the right thing by allowing your son to go w/his friend. Your h is a big boy and needs to schedule things in advance. It's his loss.
As for your father, I'm sorry to hear about the layoff. He may not be the only one t be laid off. Companies today do not look at the "loyalty and giving of yourself" when it comes to layoffs like they use to.
Now, keep your focus on the you, your family and the upcoming wedding. Leave the drama at the door and enjoy the weekend.
