I'm back home now and looking at all my Retrouvaille info. And it is overwhelming. There is so much, I don't see a way to easily encapsulate it. The best thing is just let them know that the weekends are available at low cost to anyone, of any religious background. The web address is www.retrouvaille.org. But, since it is hard to spell, they also use www.helpourmarriage.org. There is no need to wait until your marriage is on the rocks to go to a weekend. It would benefit married people at any time in their marriage.
There is a Post session on intimacy that if my H and I were presenters, would be the session I am most interested in presenting. They talk about intimacy not being just sex, but also confiding feelings with another. "Intimacy results from sharing ourselves with our spouse fully and deeply. This means honestly sharing who we are emotionally, intellectually, physically, and spiritually." The danger of an EA is that it creates an intimate relationship with another, not the spouse. That is an important point to make. Here is a list of barriers to intimacy:
Betrayal of trust/ Infidelity (not limited to sexual) Over-dependency Unforgiven hurts Fear of being close Fear of openness Self-protective behaviors Married-singles lifestyle Old, unfinished business Unresolved anger Withholding affection/love/sex Individualism Too busy Jealousy Indifference Criticism Aggressiveness Boredom Addictions other...
And they talk about keeping the sex alive and fun. If I were Greek with the women alone in a room, I would encourage them to have some sexy lingerie that they wear on occasion.
