Wife had a bad day, work-wise, and still dealing with pain.
I got a pizza and came home. W is finishing up whatever she was doing, says, I just need to have some fun... son says, you can play Uno with us! She took a bath, I played my guitar (PMA!), the boys unloaded the dishwasher, and we sat down to play.
We all had a good time, laughing, joking. I was really tired, so at one point she scratched my arm and asked me, are you OK? At one point she says, joking, I want some brownines - will you make me some brownies?
I started to think, did I just make this all up?
Well, we put the kids to bed, and talked just a little about things, the therapist, etc. Then we settled down to watch TV. She asked, this may seem inappropriate, but can we cuddle? I need comfort, you need comfort, let's just forget things while we watch this one TV show.
Toward the end, she says, I don't know what it is about you. You're just a really good person.
Then she went to bed in the guest room.
OOOOOOOOOOkay. Goals? These would have been my goals last time around. Things I scratched and fought for. Share a pizza. Play a game. Watch TV together. Cuddle. But this is all happening at the same time that she's pushing forward for seperation and divorce.
If I didn't know better I'd be questioning my perception of reality. Or if she's nuts.
