back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

So...W started talking tonight. For quite a long time about our sitch. I listened and only acknowledged what she was saying. No comments or anything. W unloaded things that she never had shared with me in all 18 years. I had a hard time keeping my jaw in place.

It boiled down to she has lost her. She has no self esteem. She wants to be finacially independant of me. She doesn't know who she is any more. She doesn't know who will come out the other side of all this and if we will be together or not. She can't work on us until she feels well and has found herself.

She is not sure if she is just numb to her feelings toward us or has just lost them. But it is not important right now. Her finding the person inside Nd getting well is first before she can work on us. I think was put to me about 5 other ways from Sunday.

We came clean on her EA and I came clean on the pc software and PI. In a lot more details. I let her ask the questions and I just answered until she had no more.

So now I really need some additional advise.