What to do when H doesn't contact?

[karen43]

Any suggestions that could help me get through to him at this hearing would be great.

Well, I don't think you can. I think he does need to hit rock bottom, If you mean about all the negative stuff he's doing in his life. He has to work on himself. You can only focus on you and your daughter, and try to have the healthiest, happiest, strongest family you can.

It would be good I think to show up at the hearing and wear a great dress or whatever, and look and feel good about yourself. I know some people say that's not important, it's the inside, yep, that's true, but looking good never hurts either. When I was at my first hearing, I overheard a lady telling my husband how great his wife looks in her dress. Yes, I'm petty or whatever, but getting good feedback from others makes me feel good.

I think DBing is all about making positive changes in yourself. Your H may or may not decide to do that also. But why give up on yourself??? Karen