How do you get a cat to jump in your lap? Dogs (men) are much easier but cats. Be a cat whisperer now.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Be a cat whisperer now. 
