Divorce not busted 2

[25yearsmlc]

O,

You seem comfortable with the card/kids focus and I do think it is always appropriate to remember that, but for the marriage, these wonderful people would not be in your world...

Are there any live shows or comedians in the area? If it's half decent, It would entertain well, bond you some in laughter or just the experience of it, and yet have no romantic pressure? And it's a bigger deal than a movie, so it shows it's a special day. Just a thought.

Well thanks to the guys on this board I guess I won't be asking my h for a long "therapeutic" back rub -- unless I'm ready to "share turns"...(sheesh you guys! Guess Puppy's right since you ALL chimed in with the same message) I was hoping to fall asleep from a lovely, loving massage, which now makes me sound super NOT fun....okay, fine, I'll stay awake and "be in the moment." Otherwise I have to pay someone else for the massage...hey what if I PAY H to give me a massage? Oh wait, I know how he'll want payment....back to "being in the moment..."

Good luck this month O, it's going to be interesting at least. Remember about the birthdays, we mom's LOVE to see our kids playing with their daddy's and thinking what great mates we picked. Honestly, for me it's like emotional foreplay and ranks up there as a very romantic thing. Same goes for building a fort or assembling some complicated toy, and making the kids so happy "b/c daddy made it" for them. It's a good feeling. (You may want to read the instructions though, or the whole experience can change fast into a "WTH are you doing?!! event" which is NOT so fun....)


Somehow, I think you'll be in a better place soon, but do NOT pressure her and if she gives you the cold shoulder at all, BACK off, and if she warms up you can be receptive, but just know that she'll pull away again. It IS a roller coaster so don't freak every time it takes a turn, and don't read a permanent life changing event into each turn. She IS conflicted, and even she knows it.

(( j ))