Alright, so H promised no more contact with OW, who is engaged now and just recently bought a house with the fiance in another town, where fiance lives and where she is from. Recently OW has started to contact H again and he says because she's a lost stupid kid who still needs his help in career decisions....they've been talking a lot more lately and she's got two interviews this weekend back home for her. He said he's talking to her to get rid of her, he "wants her ass gone and out of my life forever." I told him there's no real way he can help her and he has no hiring power or even knows anyone where she's interviewing. And the biggest problem is that she has a criminal record, DUI with disorderly contact. Also she and a friend stole a prescription drug pad from a doctor's office and got caught, so that's on there too. Once an possible employer runs her background, even if it's just the driving record, she's screwed......and hence she stays in my life. ARRGGGG.
He says he wants to be with me, but when things like this come up (his contact with OW) it makes it harder to be around each other. So my suggestion was Stop contact like you promised. He says "Let me do this my way.....you have to."
I asked him if he was looking for one last ho-rah with her and he said "Even if she wanted it, and I don't think she does, I don't."
I guess what this all boils down to is I'm having serious trust issues.
