Thinker, I feel for ya. How frustratingly exhausting that must have been.
The "we don't have to make a decision, you have to make a decision" part is an exhausting discussion I've had with my wife. In my case, replace "decision" with "start the D process". Suddenly wants me to make first move, choose the Mediator, etc.
"Pardon me, but I don't want this..."
Sometimes ya just gotta endure.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
