Lovely stuff. There are better one below AFTER I ask....
Am I doing the right thing avoiding places I know my W is? Pursuing in any way is just wrong? I have to WAIT?
I honestly want to put another care package together.
There's a set of speakers for her Mac. There's the cable she needs for her Camera. I would love to buy her the Michael Bublée CD - the one with Lost and Home on it.
With a note - People never leave people. They leave situations."
I could knock up a home made pro cd but I think a store bought one would be much better.
Ahhhhh - dammit.
Oh - been told by the go between - "You know J is coaching your W don't you".
Thats the most frightening thought. I can only have faith in my W's inbuilt niceness (not that I've seen much of that lately).
She also says that one of "friends" cronies asked her "Why is he speaking to me?". Her answer "He talks to EVERYBODY". Being nice to these people - they just can't handle it!!!!
And now back at you....
Find them and PLAY them Serenity - tugs the heartstrings.
Home:
Another summer day Has come and gone away In Paris and Rome But I wanna go home Mmmmmmmm
Maybe surrounded by A million people I Still feel all alone I just wanna go home Oh I miss you, you know
And I’ve been keeping all the letters that I wrote to you Each one a line or two “I’m fine baby, how are you?” Well I would send them but I know that it’s just not enough My words were cold and flat And you deserve more than that
Another aeroplane Another sunny place I’m lucky I know But I wanna go home Mmmm, I’ve got to go home
Let me go home I’m just too far from where you are I wanna come home
And I feel just like I’m living someone else’s life It’s like I just stepped outside When everything was going right And I know just why you could not Come along with me But this was not your dream But you always believe in me
Another winter day has come And gone away And even Paris and Rome And I wanna go home Let me go home
And I’m surrounded by A million people I Still feel alone Oh, let go home Oh, I miss you, you know
Let me go home I’ve had my run Baby, I’m done I gotta go home Let me go home It will all right I’ll be home tonight I’m coming back home
Lost:
I can't believe it's over I watched the whole thing fall And I never saw the right man was on the wall If I don't land Days were slipping past That the good things never last That you were crying
Summer turned to winter And the snow it turned to rain And the rain turned into tears upon your face I hardly recognized the girl you are today And god I hope it's not too late It's not too late 'Cause you are not alone I'm always there with you And we'll get lost together Till the light comes pouring through 'Cause when you feel like you're done And the darkness has won Babe, you're not lost When your worlds crashing down And you can't bear to fall I said, babe, you're not lost
Life can show no mercy It can tear your soul apart It can make you feel like you've gone crazy But you're not Things have seem to changed There's one thing that's still the same In my heart you have remained And we can fly fly fly away
'Cause you are not alone And I am there with you And we'll get lost together Till the light comes pouring through 'Cause when you feel like you're done And the darkness has won Babe, you're not lost When the worlds crashing down And you can not bear to crawl I said, baby, you're not lost I said, baby, you're not lost I said, baby, you're not lost I said, baby, you're not lost
I will download these and listen to them - Thank you - PS Who sings them? The first one looks so familiar but I can't place it...
As for your questions...
"Am I doing the right thing avoiding places I know my W is?" Yes you are doing the right thing because if you ran into her to be honest I think you would fall back into her trap
"Pursuing in any way is just wrong?" Pursuing is a big no-no - Puppy taught me this actually had to beat it into my head because every part of me screams out to pursue him...I don't call, text, email...Nothing and you will see eventually they will contact you...Mine does about once a week now - Do I wish it were more - Yes however That is the way it is right now
"I have to WAIT?" Yes my friend - Waiting is all you have however you don't sit at home waiting you GAL...This is all part of your 180's...I forgot you didn't have the book yet but I still have to refer to mine at least once a day if not more...
As for this - "I honestly want to put another care package together.
There's a set of speakers for her Mac. There's the cable she needs for her Camera. I would love to buy her the Michael Bublée CD - the one with Lost and Home on it.
With a note - People never leave people. They leave situations."
Nope - This is pursuing...If she needs the cable or speakers, she can contact you and set up a time to retrieve these things...
Let "J" coach your "W" - Eventually she will learn to think for herself...
She is getting the justification she needs from "J" for what she has done...
She knows in her heart it was wrong however she still has at least one person on her side so she will listen to that one because that one is letting her know what she did was ok...
Same with Hubby - No one agrees with anything he has done these last few months however the OW soothes his ego...
Tells him what he wants to hear so of course for now she is better then me because I refuse to do it...
I am hoping and praying everyday he pulls his head out of his you know what and realizes what a huge mistake he has made...
I have faith in him...I believe in him - That is what keeps me going
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Mac, I agree totally w/Serenity. You're doing well. Except when you over-think. Like me. For Rescuers like us, not helping does "feel" callous. How could it not? Do it anyway. It's not callous.
Originally Posted By: Mac-ct
Do I show my face in the re-opened Pizza place tomorrow? And be "normal" in greeting and enjoying? And risk "upsetting" my W with my attitude?
You should do what you want to do the way you would do it for you.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Guys - after a long long think and a discussion with my C, I took a decision to do something I'm not proud of.
The company "after" my W has said that withholding information could lead to an offense and prosecution. They also stated that they would find her through their tracing agency. I'm not trying to justify my actions. Just passing on the conversation.
My C agreed. He also asked my why I felt the need to protect my W from the world. She's a grown woman. Stop trying to fix things. Where the heck have I heard that before.
I wish my W had discussed this problem with me in February when I spent 2 solid weeks sorting my cr@p out. This would have been just another one to add to the pile, negotiate, pay each month and move on.
