Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Trying to start conversations, but getting one word answers. What's up with her? Does she have feelings or not? Was the regret text an anomole? I sent the check in to Retrouvaille, so we are committed now. Maybe itbwas a glimpse into her unguarded self.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Understand that despite her apology for the letter, she is still struggling with herself. That means you are still going to get the rollercoaster. Just expect it.
I'm in a similar sitch. W has shown some positive. When she does, I have come to expect her to pull back. Knowing its coming helps you not get upset by it and allows you to let her have her space. Don't worry. Just be still.
Cool, thanks for the support and advice. She went to the store and be home soon. Well see how it goes. I'll probably go to bed soon anyway.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Thanks, fallgirl, my prayers are with you, too. This should be an interesting weekend. We will all be together and it is the beginning of crazy month for us. All of our birthdays and our anniversary are in August. My 40th birthday is the 3rd, so W made reservations at my favorite restaurant for 20 family members on Sunday. My B-day is Monday, Tuesday is my younger son's birthday, he will be 4. We are having a party for him Tuesday afternoon. Wednesday is our 9th anniversary. Not sure what will happen that day. I would like to take her to dinner. We'll see. Thursday afternoon is the party for my older son who will be 6 on the 12th. The following Saturday will be the family party for both boys. Then on the 24th it is my wife's birthday. Again, not sure what to do then. I don't know what to expect from W on my birthday and our anniversary. I am not expecting much. I used to have flowers delivered to her work, and always got her a sappy card, and always went to dinner where we met. I will definately tone it down. One day at a time, right??!!
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Just play it cool throughout the next week. Everything, no matter what (obviously disrespect and boundary issues excluded as they always are) is just fine with you.
Throw yourself into your kids. Mine have been a very healthy escape/distraction from the sitch at times. AND, a woman LOVES to see her husband playing and having fun with her kids. She may not say anything about it (mine hasn't), and that's ok b/c you aren't doing it for her. You are doing it for you. The love I have received from my S9 and D5 has been a God send at times, and my kids have no idea of what they are doing. They just love me unconditionally, like I want my W to do. Take that where you can get it for now. It will get you through.
Just enjoy the moments to come next week and make things easy for your W (I don't mean kiss her a$$). Give her space and do what you can to take the pressure of the sitch (she's in it too) off of her. Let her own her issues, but don't be a source of pressure to her. You might be surprised at what she does.
