Hey Rob, Thanks for the sensible advice - makes a lot of sense, really, and takes her whims out of the formula in a calm way...It's definitely a lack of respect - and it's ongoing - I just got an email from her tonight, in fact, in which she wrote:
"When either of us has travelled in the past, you call and I have S2 return your call as soon as possible. My phone service is not very reliable in [parents house], but I was available via email and my parent's number if you'd wanted to reach S2. I really have no idea what your schedule is when I travel. I don't think your attitude is very conducive to a partnership as S2's parents, which I think is a real shame. I hope things improve as time goes on."
It's almost impressive how much she will twist reality. I never call her when she travels - I never call her period. I only and always text her with requests that S2 call me - which is exactly what I did the prior weekend -while she was also at her parent's home...And then suggesting that my attitude is the problem...just more of the same habit she's been in over a year now - of trying to blame me for taking issue with her actions...I think that habit of hers got much worse after our MC suggested that it was my fault that B had her affair...very fine moment of MC that one...
I think she continues to put off the divorce because she knows that no judge/mediator would indulge her nonsense. She got livid with our MC when MC suggested that continuing to nurse S2 in bed until he's 3 might not be good for him or the changes of our marriage...oh well...the M was doomed no matter what - which is something I've come to accept as a painful though positive change in my life...
And V...thanks for the faith in me...though I don't know if it comes through in these pages...I sometimes have a hard time retaining the faith and hope that I'll be fine no matter what...I've managed to find it somehow over and over - but has been brutally difficult of late - not b/c of M...that's settled in my mind - but because of work...and the fact that my S12 leaves August 18 to live with his mom for the school year...I've also had a series of minor mishaps piled on top of one another lately...enough frustrations to make me wonder at times if maybe someone has managed to put a curse on me...
But then I wake, think about my children, think about the many gifts I've been given throughout my life, and find a way to keep going...it's not been easy...but it has been revealing...
