Newly Separated and Heartbroken

[ALJ]

Thanks for your advice mnt dreams. I have read DR once and am going to get my own copy tomorrow so I can read it again. I have been seeing a c also who has helped me with some issues that I had with myself. (self-esteem, passive behavior.) I also believe that my husband has had EA during our marriage. One happened back in 2001 that I had proof of but never really confronted him about. He did mention being able to communicate better with others more so than me.(He did not specify male or female) Lack of Communication was a big problem in our R.

I also have to stop trying to hang onto my H through phone conversations and be the first one to end it. This has been a problem for me as I dont talk to him everyday and I dont see him but once every 6 weeks. I just have to realize that I am not one of his favorite people right now and refocus on working on me.

I am in the process of telling my family about our separation and that will be another weight lifted off of my shoulders. I have also talked with DB coach Jody who has really helped me figure out what steps to take when dealing with my H. I never thought this would have happened to me but here I am in the thick of it.