Glad to hear from you, even if things haven't changed that much.
My husband also blames/resents me for things that happened years ago and when we went to Retro I saw in his journals that the reason he didn't forgive me was it allowed him to justify the BS he is pulling. If they choose forgiveness and acceptance then they have to acknowledge that running away, cheating, etc is ridiculous and they have to change...since then he has said he doesn't know how to forgive me, but again, that is a choice...
