So, the week has been good. H has been putting effort in, trying to reconnect after a bad week last week. Then today, he was suppose to have appt with IC for first time for addiction stuff, so he said. Then this afternoon he texts to say no meeting couldn't get ahold of anyone to get directions and gave me number he was calling to show you just get voicemail. I called it and it was the wrong #...not a counselor but residence. Asked him if it was the # he called to schedule appt and he hesitated. Asked if he had actually had appt to start with. He gets all defensive and raises his voice saying he has been trying to call for two weeks and told me he had appt because he wants to show he is committed...etc. etc. Lying has been a huge issue so I wanted to scream and bite his head off but I kept my cool and said it looks like you need a number that works. He of course kept ramping up and finally backed out of picking son up from school (thurs is usually his day) saying he was too worked up. Calls later tonight and is clearly drinking. I think sometimes he just creates conflict so he has an excuse to drink. I feel good that I didn't buy into it and didn't get myself all in a hissy. I am learning to detach....big thing when dealing with an addict. I wish there was more on here about people dealing with addicts. I don't even know if you can really DB with an addict, but I'm trying. We went to a M counselor but they said not point until he gets treatment. It get's old waiting. Just trying to provide stability for me and son and show his a life that would be worth rejoining. Not sure what else to do.
