My god! A year! Can you appeal it? Are you using legal aide or a private lawyer?
You should just state it plainly that you need to have D come at 8 am, as the court order states this week. But if it would be easier for her, she could always bring D by fri night... Stick to your guns on this one. I dont think that you need to worry about it, this isnt a request to go to dinner or whatever. And if you do ask for it, hold your ground.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...