I am saying that they are also done in the hope that WAS will notice. The whole point of DB is supposedly to BUST THE DIVORCE.
I think they do notice. I know my H told me several times how much I've changed and he's told other people that also. Of course, he's still with OW so obviously just that may not be enough. I think my H is an addict, addicted to OW, so is mere DBing on my part going to affect that. I mean it's like saying DBing will stop a WAS' alcohol or drug or gambling addiction. At some point, the only way they can stop the addiction is to realize what they're doing and work on it themselves. I think the theory is that DB will make them aware of how much they're giving up? Karen
