"H was probably harder on my S because I tried to get in the middle, where if I'd not done that, they may have gotten to some points of understanding."
I interfered for YEARS in the R between my H and my D18. They had some highs and lows, but some pretty stressful times in the middle school years. Funny, about the start of high school, I started to stay out of it. The two of them now, are so close now. He's truly an amazing Dad to her.
Sooooo, I hear ya on that one!
"Then it hit me - the way I was feeling and hurting was exactly how my H was feeling. H wanted to be loved without being judged, being okay just the way he was and loved without being judged."
This is what made me cry. I never gave much thought to this aspect of "us." I sit here, alone, in a marriage, waiting to be noticed again, and touched again. For years, after our boys were born, I know he felt the same way. I wasn't a cold fish or anything, just "busy." Thought there would be time for that stuff later... GOD!
Thanks for this. Truly.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
