thanks guys, I did get the word to her about my illness, and she didn't even respond. It really hurt my feelings cause I'm afraid of doing something like this without her. I think maybe she thinks its not that bad and I'm using it to reach her. That's all I can guess. When I did ask her about it on the phone Monday, she said that Ill be ok, and I need to have faith... then we kinda got into a argument on the phone. Ive all but figured out that we cant talk on the phone anymore, shes almost always mean to me on the phone, but not face to face. Again all I can think is that its easy to say hurtful things on the phone, cause she don't have to look in my eyes and say it. I don't know. I do know that shes not really interested in doing anything that would benefit me right now. Even if it was more visitation with my D. I think shes punishing me for finding out about and confronting the OM. I haven't spoke to or texted her since Monday, and figure I gotta keep this up. One big problem is that a lawyer I spoke with today says that she probably couldn't drop the RO now even if she wanted to. So that means its in place till 15 jul 10! Wholly crap! How do I work this?