Holly - sorry for the hijack. I'm going to make this as quick as I can and then I will be gone.
BND - I was hoping that you would be one of the ones who would understand. I was wrong.
The quote from Job is because I believe that it's God who will speak to my husband. I know it's not my job.
Years ago (back in the early 1990s) God told me to do something and I didn't do it. I did what the world told me I should be doing. (I've told this story on this board before.) I lost my first husband to divorce. I probably didn't stand for my marriage long enough. (Yes, Charlyne and Bob were around then. In fact, they were to come to my church for a weekend retreat and I cancelled the retreat.) I disobeyed God then. God made it real clear what I was to do this time. I am NOT going to disobey Him this time.
God has been very specific in his instructions. I am to let Him take care of my husband and the OW. I set some boundaries. I'm sure it wasn't enough for everyone here on this board. I set one that cost me a lot of time with my husband. It set our healing process back about six months.
It's not easy BUT I am getting through. I work with social workers and therapists every day (it's part of my job). They help me to get through when the going gets really tough. They don't all agree but those who have dealth with MLC understand. I have to be careful to stay away from this board. I have to remember to listen to God and when I get advice I have to ask God to make it clear to me that it's what He wants me to do. I have to remember when I feel attacked that I'm not doing this for anyone but God. It's not for me. It's not for my husband. I'm serving God.
I could answer all of your questions but the bottom line is I'm doing what I do because God told me to. There are going to be people here that don't agree with that. But none of you know the whole situation. I don't even know the whole situation. It is still unfolding.
