Trusting, I am so sorry to read about the accident this evening. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I understand how you feel about the rift that was brought about because of your xh's behavior, etc.
Please take care of yourself and I think it's very nice of you to be there for your xh after all that he's done. Your behavior just proves what a classy lady that you are.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.