A&K, I'm spending less time on the threads too. But I'll keep you in my thoughts.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
AAAAAHHHHHHHHHH...I'm getting out of dodge for the weekend and H is obsessed with where I'm going...alluding to introducing kids to his new super hot famous GF...wants to trade secrets (he'll tell me about her if I tell him about the nonexistent guy I'm going with)...WACKO.
I need to wrap my brain and my heart in TEFLON!!!!!!
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
You would REALLY benefit and find some stability from detaching. Consciously work on it, then let it happen. It may take some time, but you will know when you get there.