Sorry that you are here. My WAW was not having an A with a person. It had a lot to do with her job. She was at the top her game. She told me that she was getting more satisfaction form the job than she was at home. Her job was far enough away from our home it was more cost effective and physically less wear and tear on her to rent an apartment and stay there during the week and come home most weekends. So when she came home to the house hold chores and seemingly know affection form me she felt undesirable and that I was involved with someone else. She was dead set on a D.
Like a typical male I started looking around for things I to fix. Well I found a bunch of stuff that I needed to be fix within me. I worked really hard becoming more aware of the things I was and was not doing. One thing I realized that I did was making her pick between and her job. The things I did not do were showing her affection and that I was happy to see her after her absence form home.
Now there are a number of other things that I have changed in myself that I am very pleased with. It has made me what I hope is a better person.
I do not know anything about your stich. I have only read what you have just written here on my thread. Maybe you should show her more affection, more attention and maybe tell her that you trust her. You probably have told her that, but actions are a lot better than words. If you can try making plans for the two of you to do something romantic or fun the night she comes home.
The first night she came home after 6 months of separation, I surprised her with a CD of belt buckle shining music and we danced and danced. I then drew a hot bubble bath in which I place rose pedals on the floor leading from the hallway through the bedroom, into the bathroom, and in the bath itself. I put lighted candles all around the tube. I put two big bath towels in the dry and warmed them up. While she was in the tube soaking and looking at the rose pedals I bought her a glass of her favorite wine. I have done something like that each weekend she has come home. Now it is not as complex than the first weekend, but it is deferent or fun, but it is always a surprise. This got me and my W back on track. It worked for me. It may or may not work for you.
That’s one way you can fight back. That is if you really want to fight back. If you don’t will not be able to show real pleasure in doing the deed.
