I posted my story in the new folks section and was told this might be a better place.
Here you go:
Me 45 Wife 42 2 sons (19 and 15) Married 23 years Retired from the military Wife and I both work Background: Wife went on business trip Dec 08. Returned acting strange. Started spending hours on the computer. Denied a PA or EA when I confronted her. Found emails Mar 09 (I was looking because I felt she was not telling the truth...I was right). Wife said guy was only a friend (however, her "friend" was telling her he loved her and they need to make up for loss time. Wife was sorry and begged me to foregive her..Two days later she stopped that...she started sleeping in gym clothes, would only be intimate if I asked her. Started sleeping in work clothes, went to counselor - wife said she did not like him after two sessions, went to female counselor - counselor told us that she could not help us if both parties do not want to work on the marriage, wife moved into another room in house, wife served me with legal separation papers, wife moves out of house into apartment, wife no longer will talk to me (unless it directly deals with the kids), wife stated relationship was broken beyond repair.
I'm heart broken. I have begged, cried and pleaded with her to not leave me and break up the family (oh thats right, she had an EA (strong evidance of PA) and I'm crying and begging her to stay).
What do I do? I'm currently in IC and that is not helping. I have tried to detach...I have tried no contact (she has actually gone NC on me) and I'm still broken up. I wake up everyday with the hope that it was only a dream, but it is not. My life will never be the same. I have been betrayed and I feel alone.
